I love you and so does the Lord.
This expression came to me from my best friend, who has been saying it to me for almost thirteen years now. It started as a light-hearted way to end a phone conversation or to break the tension during a discussion of a serious topic. It’s also something we both take very seriously because we know that both of these things are true, we love each other and God loves us.
However, this expression has become something more to me over the years. It’s become my verbal weapon of choice. Whenever someone says something mean or hurtful, I try to respond with, “I love you, and so does the Lord.” Most of the time I even mean it, though I admit, not every time. Sometimes it is simply a defense mechanism designed to keep me from losing it.
It doesn’t always diffuse the situation, in fact, it has enraged one or two people through the years. It does, however, make me feel better every single time. Knowing that I responded to anger, or worse, hatred, with love, enlarges my heart and gives me peace of mind. Not only can I not control other people’s actions, but I am not responsible for them. I am only responsible for my own actions, I am completely in control of my actions, and therefore I have a duty to act in the most honorable way possible.
Do I sometimes fail? Yes, I often fail. It’s easy to make excuses for acting inappropriately when you’re angry, but there is nothing to really excuse failing to act in a way that is in alignment with what you know to be true.
Whether it is hateful comments from animal rights activists, an angry political comment or simply a rude person at Walmart, “I love you and so does the Lord.”