For thousands of years we lived in a Culture of Honor. Then as society evolved, we developed a Culture of Dignity. But now, in the 21st century, we live in a Culture of Victimhood. In a Culture of Victimhood, what I call The Oppression Olympics, is staged every day. The more minority categories you can fit into, the more you can claim to be oppressed, the higher you climb in the social rankings. If you’re a black, trans, lesbian, midget, vegan Muslim, well, hey, you’re King of the World (the use of a gender designated title is not by mistake).
Setting aside arguments about “trans” and “gay” for a minute, the only things in that description that a person has any control over whatsoever are “vegan” and “Muslim”. Every other thing that is descriptive about that person is passive, it requires no action, no morals or values. It’s something you’re born as. How do terms that could describe you as you take your first breaths be what defines you when you are thirty years old? Shouldn’t you be more than your DNA by the time you reach adulthood?
I firmly believe, the only positive way to define yourself, is through your foundational philosophy and your actions. I am a Christian, libertarian, father, husband, son, brother, friend, conservationist, hunter, philosopher, musician and writer, to name but a few. Every single descriptor I mentioned requires foundational philosophies and action. My race doesn’t factor into this one bit. My Scottish and Cherokee ancestry does not factor into this one bit. Even my sex or gender, it alone doesn’t define me, however, God gave me certain roles and responsibilities that are not the same as which are granted to my wife. However, together, she and I are two halves of the whole that are required to produce life in the image of God. But I am only a true man if I, through my actions, fulfill the responsibilities of a man that God asks me to.
Case in point, being a male, biologically, allows you to produce sperm which can, if in contact with a woman’s egg, produce life. But it is only a man who takes responsibility for that child and raises it to be a good person as God instructed. The action of reproduction is only the first action, it requires years of work before the complete action is finished. This would be like putting on a pair of ice skates and calling yourself a hockey player. Lacing up your skates is only the first thing, after that, you have to get out on the ice and play 60 minutes as a good teammate and fulfilling your role on the team whether that is wing, center, defense or goalie.
Do not define yourselves by things outside of your control and do not allow others to define you by those terms either. Who you are is not defined by these things, nor simply by opinions you hold, nor by who the world tells you you are. Who you are is who God says you are and hopefully, in agreement with God, who you say you are.